This past Sunday was Part 3 of our current “BETTER THAN ONE” Series. This week’s message was titled “Choose Wisely”.
This week was about learning the wisdom of friendship, how to pick solid friends, and how to be friends with non-believers without compromising our faith.
The friends we choose are one of the few things that we always have full control over. Kids, when they are growing up, sometimes make comments like, “I can’t wait to get out of the house so I can make my own decisions,” or “I can’t wait to be in control of my life”. The truth— we aren’t in full control even as adults. When we become adults, we answer to our boss at work. We can’t control who we work with, who comes to our church, etc. However, we can control:
1. Who you are friends with.
2. Who you go deep with.
3. Who you invest your time with.
We looked at two things that we need to do when choosing our friends and determining the type friend that we want to be.
1. BE PATIENT
Don’t assume that the most accessible friends are the ones that should be your best friends. THINK things through before acting and ask yourself these questions:
1. Do they bring peace and joy or drama?
2. Do they help you grow stronger in your faith, and help you become a better friend?
3. Do they gossip and lie, or can you trust them to keep a secret?
Check out these verses below about the friends we have and the people we hang out with.
1. Proverbs 18:8NIV— The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the
2. Proverbs 13:20— Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers
3. Proverbs 11:13— A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
4. Proverbs 27:17— As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
5. Proverbs 12:25— Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.
6. 1 Cor. 15:33— Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
While we need to make sure we are surrounding ourselves with the right type of friends, we also need to make sure that we aren’t taking the process too far the other way and completely distancing ourselves from others.
2. Stay Balanced
The story of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37 tells us that ALL those we come in contact with are our neighbors. This means that we are to be friendly and show the love of Christ to all we come in contact with. This includes the bully, the person that annoys, the former friend that stabbed us in the back, etc.
We need to got deep with some (those close friends that are in our inner circle, have a positive influence on us, and help us draw closer to God and become a better person/friend) and reach out to those who are not in our circle of friends. We can’t reach others with the love of Jesus if we’re not willing to associate with them. We can look at the life of Jesus as an example. Jesus had many followers, then he had a group of twelve disciples that he spent the majority of his time with, and he took it a step farther by having an even smaller circle of friends— Peter, James, and John— that he spent even more time pouring into. Jesus ate and associated with the sinner, thief, and the prostitutes. The key is that he didn’t do it alone, and he always had a purpose for doing so— reaching them with the love of God.
A nutshell version of what this message was about is:
1. Be Patient
2. Stay Balanced
3. Show love to all
4. Have a core of close, godly friends that can help hold you accountable while showing the
love of Jesus to those around us.
Have a GREAT week!