We kicked off a new series last night called “Better Than One” that will teach us about the type of friendships we need to be building as well as the type of friend that we each need to be. This series has been modified and customized from the videos on RightNow Media to fit Awakening Youth Ministries.
Here’s the deal with friends:
1. They can make or break our middle school and especially our high school experience. They can influence our popularity, where we hang out, the activities we choose to take part in, etc.
2. They can help point us to Christ or lead us away from him.
3. Friends are intended to be a gift from God, but solid ones are hard to come by.
The Problem with Friendship
1. FRIENDSHIP- We often think of it as a good thing, but we don’t take the steps of vulnerability. We don’t take the steps to become real friends.
2. We don’t talk about the things we struggle with or about deep issues. We don’t go beneath
the surface, and this can lead to us living fake lives to try and fit in.
Genesis 2:18NKJV says,
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
1. We were created for relationships and friends. God never intended us to go through life alone.
2. Let’s take a look at 3 lies we often tell ourselves when it comes to friendships:
This trap causes us to believe the lie, “There’s nobody I can trust.” This leads to isolation and loneliness, and is an unhealthy way to live life.
This trap causes us to believe the lie, There is no one I can relate to or no one that understands me. This causes us to distance and divide ourselves from others. Satan’s #1 scheme is to isolate us from any healthy relationships. Think about this— Satan attacked the human race AFTER God brought Adam and Eve
together. Satan knows the power of relationships will do his best to keep us from developing strong, healthy relationships.
This trap causes us to believe the lie, I don’t need friends. The truth is— Anyone who tries to go through life and their walk with God alone will fail. We have so many ways to connect with others, but people want to connect without getting emotional and getting into the baggage that comes with friends. There is a HUGE difference between interacting and relating; having conversations and overcoming trials together. We live with a crowded loneliness where we are around all kinds of people, but we connect with very few.
Ecclesiastes 4:7-8NIV says,
Again I saw something meaningless under the sun:
8 There was a man all alone;
he had neither son nor brother.
There was no end to his toil,
yet his eyes were not content with his wealth.
“For whom am I toiling,” he asked,
“and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?”
This too is meaningless—
a miserable business!
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12NIV says,
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
1. Friends are important. More specifically, the right friends are the key to winning in life.
2. Friends are better than one. 3. Friends are meant to walk along side of us, encourage us, support us, and show us Christ’s
love while helping us draw closer to him. We need friends!